We all know the classic Valentine’s Day date night—the flowers, the candlelit dinner, the fancy meal. But let’s be honest, that same old routine is getting played out. Sure, five-star restaurants are great—if their love language is quality time or acts of service. But what if that’s not how they truly feel loved? Everyone has a primary love language that shapes how they give and receive love. What’s a love language? These love languages were defined and flushed out in the book, The Five Love Languages by author Gary Chapman, PhD.
Why these 5 Love Languages? The self-titled site shares that “different people with different personalities give and receive love in different ways. By learning to recognize these preferences in yourself and in your loved ones, you can learn to identify the root of your conflicts, connect more profoundly, and truly begin to grow closer.” And with this day of love, you have the chance to grow closer when you choose to “consistently speak each other’s love language!”
So, why not shake things up with a Valentine’s Date Night remix? You know, a Date Night Love Language remix? Think outside the box and tailor your date night to speak their love language this Valentine’s Day—it might lead to a passionate night full of surprises.
Here are Valentine’s Date Night ideas for the five love languages that’ll have your partner saying ooh-la-la! Think about what makes them feel cherished, appreciated, and bursting with joy. After all, to be seen is to be loved.
Valentine’s Date Night Ideas for each of the Five Love Languages
1. Quality Time
A love language like quality time you simply can’t go wrong. The key is spending uninterrupted time with your partner and engaging in heartfelt conversations. Try an intimate no-phone picnic filled with sipping wine, reminiscing on your love story, and painting portraits of each other but bursting out in laughter once it’s revealed.
For a pinch of spice, take your Valentine’s Date night up a notch with a couple’s cooking class. What better way to learn new recipes together, keep things exciting, and have the perfect excuse to sneak in subtle touches? It’s bound to keep things steamy over that stove. Then, after dinner, be sure to save enough room for dessert – wink.
Exploring new places can be that missing puzzle piece of keeping your love life thrilling. Plan a day or weekend trip to a new city and create a bucket list that fits your tastes that you can do together. Don’t forget to capture plenty of pictures so you and your partner can reflect on the highlights of your adventure – it’ll be an added topic to discuss later. By the end of the trip, you will have your partner gushing and feeling love-struck by Cupid’s arrow.
2. Physical Touch
Valentine’s Day is about love and intimacy, so what better way than through physical touch? But physical touch isn’t just about sensual smooches and warm hugs (though those are perks). It’s about the subtle, heated moments that leave your boo thang utterly infatuated. This love language speaks volumes without a single word but expresses “UR MINE” with each tender stroke.
Picture a romantic evening with your partner—a sensual dance class designed for lovers. It’s not your typical Valentine’s date night, but once you’re in the moment, bodies pressed close, hands caressing, eyes locked, and hips swaying to the beat, you’ll feel a spark of undeniable energy with your soulmate. Every touch will be intentional, and you’ll be swept away by love as you salsa dance the night away.
Nothing says “Amour” quite like an intimate night dedicated to pure relaxation and romance. Set the mood with a steamy, petal-filled bath infused with bubbles and Epsom salt (a plus if you both fit in the tub). Pour some wine, lay out a charcuterie board or chocolate-covered strawberries, and celebrate the moment together, soaking in all the love.
Once you’re both fully relaxed, take it up a notch with a full-body massage using warm aromatherapy body oils—think lavender, eucalyptus, or sandalwood for an intoxicating scent that soothes the muscles and nourishes the skin. Every touch lingers, leaving tingles; by the end of the night, your soulmate will be floating on cloud nine.
Want to spice things up? Steamy games are the new and improved remix to a classic couple’s game night. Everything goes, whether it’s a dirty dice game, a HOT round of truth or dare, or your custom after-dark challenges. The rules? There are none. This is your chance to get as close and personal as you want—teasing, laughing, and turning up the romance as the night unfolds.
At the end of the night, one thing’s for sure: you’ll be fluent in touch.
3. Words of Affirmation
If your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, Valentine’s Day is your time to flirt and sweet-talk those pants or panties off! It is highly encouraged to make the day all about showering your lover with compliments and vocalizing your appreciation—whispering sweet nothings in their ear all night.
Karaoke Night is a guaranteed way to hit all the right notes in their heart. Serenade your boo with the best love songs that remind you of your relationship (even if you’re not the strongest singer). Add a sweet touch by dedicating each song to your partner and sharing a lovey-dovey reason why you picked it. Their heartstrings will be strumming like Olivia Newton-John’s “Hopelessly Devoted to You.”
For a more intimate vibe, play The Skin Deep: Couple Edition—a card game filled with deep, thought-provoking questions to help you open up and let your significant other know everything you adore about them. It’s the perfect way to get closer while focusing on what makes your relationship magical.
4. Receiving Gifts
Gift-giving often gets a reputation for being expensive, but that’s only half true. A classic Valentine’s date is perfect for someone whose love language is gift-giving—just make sure to include a timeless token at the end of the night. Now, if your partner has a boujee taste, this is NOT the time to be a brokey. Save your coins to spoil your special someone with that lavish gift they’ve been eyeing—or surprise them with something universally adored that’s sparkling, enchanting, and radiant. (Cough, cough, diamonds!).
But let’s keep it real— don’t break the bank if it’s not within your budget. There are plenty of thoughtful, affordable options that can carry even more sentimental value and can’t compare because it’s priceless.
Think of engraved jewelry, such as a necklace, bracelet, or ring inscribed with loving words, or a one-of-a-kind photo album that captures your love story. Fill it with memorable moments, love notes, or keepsakes, and watch their hearts swell with adoration. Going the extra mile with thoughtful touches like dates and monumental locations will make it unforgettable.
The five senses gift idea is another heartfelt choice – a charming yet trendy way to say, “I love you.” Customize each sensory detail to match your Valentine’s unique preferences. For smell, a deep, sensual fragrance with notes like their favorite perfume. Or for sound, a vinyl record of their favorite album or love songs you’ve danced together. Gifts with sentimental value don’t have to cost a fortune—treasures like these express love in ways words simply cannot.
(Hopefully, my man sees this.)
5. Acts of Service
Having a partner whose primary love language is acts of service might be the easiest job in the world. All they need is those little things they mention—like washing the dishes, cleaning their car, or tackling the laundry (you know, the usual chores) – getting done. But this Valentine’s Day, let’s go beyond the bare minimum and have them falling in love all over again.
Give your Bae the ultimate day off—seriously, they shouldn’t lift a finger! Start the morning with a sweet surprise: breakfast in bed. Then, tackle a few household chores they’ve been eyeing just to take the weight off their shoulders. To get some extra smooches, book a much-needed deep tissue massage to help them relax and unwind—whether it’s a solo session or a couple’s massage, it’s all about preference.
When you’re back, have their sexy evening outfit laid out—the one you know will have you completely captivated. End the night with a luxurious, home-cooked meal with all their favs in a squeaky-clean house, surrounded by a dreamy, romantic setup of rose petals and warm candles. And if you really want to earn some bonus points? Do it all at a hotel, so they won’t feel the need to tidy up afterward. Take our advice and y’all are going to be boo’d up all night.
This Valentine’s Day, wow your bae with a date night catered to their love languages. Whether it’s through quality time to acts of service, understanding each other’s love language can be the key to how your loved one receives love. No matter how fancy or simple – it’s about making your special someone heard, seen, and loved. I’m sure your partner will be dripping in love and thank you with extra hugs and kisses this Valentine’s Day once they see your dreamy date night. #LoveIsInTheAir
Let us know below—what’s your primary love language? And which date night vibe are you going for this Valentine’s Day?
